If Clarity was a (special) friend of yours, how often does she drop by for a visit?

She’s sometimes hard to get a hold of right? (Trust me, we’ve all been there!)

I can remember those times where I absolutely STUCK and I couldn’t figure out what to do for the life of me!

It felt like I was just going around in circles and not making any progress.

Until one day, I just let that frustration go. Whatever problem I was trying so hard to fix, I just forgot about it for a moment.

And then…. loads of ideas started to pour in.

I scribbled as fast as I could to jot down all these new insights.

EUREKA. *Lightbulb lit*

What I discovered was that our friend, Clarity, does like to drop by for a visit after all!

She just doesn’t do it when we ooze desperation and she definitely doesn’t like it if we get too clingy.

She prefers to visit anyone she wants, so committing to one person just isn’t her thing.

(She’s starting to sound like your ex-lover, doesn’t she? ;)

She wants to keep our relationship fun and not-so-serious.

She’s thinking more in the lines of… “go with the flow”.

It’s all part of her social, friendly, generous, and caring nature after all.

When I finally dropped the struggle in finding her, she found me.

So how can you get Clarity to come to you?

Be a tease and play hard to get!

Let her know that you have a life and that you’ll see her when you see her.

Here are 23 ideas on how you can do just that:

1. Ask questions.
2. Go for a walk.
3. Exercise.
4. Journal or write your soul out.
5. Explore new territory — see if you like it or not, figure out what you like/want (and what you don’t).
6. Talk out loud.
7. Get support from a coach/mentor.
8. Word association.
9. Morning Pages.
10. Doodle.
11. Dance.
12. Mediate.
13. Sing a song (or make one up).
14. Mind mapping.
15. Have fun and forget about trying to figure it out.
16. Take a shower.
17. Have a nice, relaxing bath.
18. Take a nap.
19. Do a mindless task or chore.
20. Keep asking WHY until you discover something new/good.
21. Do something. Take action.
22. Do the opposite of what you’re thinking
23. Do exactly what you’re thinking.
24. Grab a drink (whether it’s green juice or cosmos) with some pals.
25. See a live comedy show.
26. Visit an art gallery.

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The most important thing is that you go out there and do something.

While these activities help you forget about your worries, they also allow for inspiration to strike.

And Clarity loves inspiration! It’s her jam.

So next time you feel like Clarity hasn’t been returning any of your calls, get out there and make her find you.

Clarity can smell desperation. Let her come to you – be a tease and play hard to get.

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Over to you…

How have you found Clarity? Or how does she found you? What would you add to the list above? Share your ideas and tips below.

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The other night, I had a dream that was so vivid and felt so real that I woke up with my heart racing, huffing and puffing.

Was that particular dream trying to tell me something?  

Whatever I experienced in this dream must have felt so real that I still felt it after waking up.

After taking some deep breaths, I finally calmed myself down.

I replayed the dream in my head (because I’m curious like that).

What I discovered was that this dream actually had a “lesson” for me to learn.

It’s a lesson we can all learn from as creative entrepreneurs.

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It was a busy day and I was in a shopping mall. I was scouting the massive food court, looking for place to grab a bite to eat.

Suddenly, out of nowhere, I found a vendor that served what looked to be healthy vegan fast food. I’m not a vegan, but the food I saw looked delicious!

So I looked through their entire menu and I looked at the food they had to display.

I was taking my time as I loved everything I saw – I practically wanted to order everything I saw!

I even looked at the signs they had posted up of their daily specials and their featured ingredients. They even had a sign that said “Please tell us your order”, which I thought was a bit bizarre.

After looking around and scoping out all of my options, I finally decided on what ot order.

Before I could open my mouth and say what I wanted, the lights began to dim and the two men working there took their aprons off and started to head out!

I said, “Hey, I was about to order!”

One of the men then said, “Sorry, Miss. It’s closing time” as he points to the sign that listed their hours of operation. He was right.

“Can you at least take my order? I’ve been here for a while and neither of your bothered to ask me what I’d like to order. I’ve been patiently waiting while you were serving the others,” I replied.

The other man spoke. “Miss, we have a sign that tells you to tell us your order.” And he points to the signage that I overlooked as a bit odd.

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The dream ended there. I woke up with my heart racing, most likely because I was angry that they wouldn’t take my order!

The nerve of those guys, I thought. Whatever happened to proactive customer service? They saw me browsing (for what seemed like hours) and they didn’t bother to ask me how I was doing or if I needed anything? Bah humbug!

And then it hit me.

I took too long to make up my mind.

I was taking my precious time, browsing, looking at all the options in front of me… completely unaware of time quickly passing by.

I was waiting for the right choice, the right moment, for inspiration to strike. And before I knew it, it was closing time.

Sound familiar?

I now realized why I had this dream. There have been a few important decisions I’ve been needing to make and I’ve been putting it off.

I’ve been waiting for the right idea to hit me.
I’ve been waiting for all the facts so I can assess all of my options first.
I’ve been waiting for that “feeling” that lets you know which option is the “right one”.
I’ve been waiting for the “I’m ready” feeling.

While the truth is — waiting for those things will never bring me what I want.

It definitely didn’t in my dream. Instead, it brought be this lesson:

You can’t wait until you’re ready.
You can’t aim for perfection.
You can’t wait for inspiration to strike.

You have to make a decision before it’s too late. You’ll never know when time runs out.

“You’ll never be fully ready.”

Wise words from my acting coach.

He said that once the director yells “Action!”, you better commit to a decision or else you’re screwed. You’ll flounder in the scene and you’ll lose the story.

This advice doesn’t just apply to actors. They apply to you, too.

You need to choose. Commit to that choice and lead with conviction.

Knowing that we’ll never be fully ready, how can we make a decision?

This is where courage, trust and intuition comes into play.

You’ll need to push through your fear and listen to your intuition (your intuition always has the answer). Then you’ll need to trust that you made the right choice.

I don’t even think we want perfection. We want what’s beautifully flawed.

We’re conditioned to strive for perfection and that’s what prevents us from making those choices. But why is that when perfection is completely unrealistic?

Think about the things that have caught your eye. Think about the people who left you in awe — were they perfect? Most likely not.

The best thing you can do is to make a decision, not aim for perfection.

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Over to you…

How do you handle “perfection paralysis”? What tricks or strategies do you use to get past this so you can continue creating great work?

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Nobody likes to be judged, ridiculed, and criticized.

Especially when it’s about something you’ve poured your heart and soul in creating, or something really important to you.

As a creative, I’m willing to bet that you’ll do just about anything to avoid being judged (and you probably have at certain times – I know I have).

Next time you fear the critics, remind yourself of the following:

1. The “paid” critics will critique and criticize because it’s their job to nit-pick!

Think of movie critics, book critics, restaurant reviewers, and bloggers. If all they do is review your products and services, you bet they’ll be looking at every little detail because that’s what their audience expects of them.

But don’t let this stop you from creating something amazing. Always create something with your best ideas and intentions in mind first – not other people’s opinions.

Remember: you’re the expert. Trust in your expertise and experience.

Trust in your capability of creating something your audience wants and needs.

2. Forget about trying to please them.

Simply forget it! You can’t please everyone (and you shouldn’t).

If you spent all of your time trying to please every single person in this world, you will either come up with something mediocre or nothing at all.

This is why it’s important to know your audience and define your “niche”.

You take your focus away from trying to please everyone and you keep your focus on serving your target audience. Create for them and them only.

When you focus on creating your best work for those who matter,  they won’t criticize you for it.

3. We all have our own preferences and that’s okay.

Think about your favourite movie… do you know of at least five other people who would disagree with you? Of course you do!

As an actor, this was one of the most important mindset shifts I’ve had to learn.

Actors go from one audition to another and there’s no way you can tell if you booked the gig.

There were days I knew I rocked the audition and I didn’t book the part, and then there were days I thought I flopped the audition and I ended up being booking the role.

I learned that there isn’t a set formula in the casting process because the decision makers themselves aren’t even sure of what they’re looking for. They’ll know it once they see it.

Think of it like dating. Think of it as love at first sight

This can apply to almost anything – when you’re finding a mentor or coach to work with, when you’re hiring an assistant, when you’re looking for a web designer or copywriter… you’re waiting for things to click.

When we’re looking for something, we’re not exactly sure what it is we’re looking for. But once we find it, we’ll know.

Everyone has their own preference on what appeals to them and what draws them in.

This is something out of your control and that’s okay.

Remember to focus on what matters: what you’re creating and who you’re creating for.

 

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Over to You…

How do you handle the critics? What tricks or strategies do you use to focus on creating and overcome your fears of being judged and criticized for your work?

 

 

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Any creative endeavour you pursue is bound to challenge you, frustrate you, and question why you even wanted to such a thing in the first place.

That was exactly how my first year of training as an actor went.

Luckily, I was working with a coach who really saw the potential in me (and his students).

Actually, he saw potential in everyone – and it’s true.

We all have potential.

The problem is that, for the majority of society, it remains untapped.

I’m now going to share with you something my mentor shared with me over a year ago.

As soon he read it to us aloud that Thursday afternoon, well over a year ago, everything I’ve done had made complete sense.

If you’re an entrepreneur or an artist (of any artform, that doesn’t have to be the traditional definition of “art”), this will resonate with you as well:

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You are the creator.

by Dr. Neala Peake

You tell stories. You believe them.

They are just stories you have created, and will continue to create, unless you become “aware” (conscious) or awakened.

You are the creator.

Everything you see is actually revealing about you.

What you see in others, is inside you.

When you realize that, it will help you to SEE.

Then you will have a true UNDERSTANDING.

I am in your life because you created me.

Perhaps I am here to help you awaken.

For too long the traditional channels of communication (media, marketing, politics, etc.) have made us think and feel small. This has served their motive to control us and keep us subservient. So long as you believe yourself small, you seek their product to improve your life.

Remember what it felt like to be a child, to see the world of infinite possibility and to see no reason why our dreams can’t become reality. As adult stargazers, we intuitively know that the stars watch over us, exerting an unseen influence on our lives. The shift is that we’re seeing our own lives as a story in the grander scheme of the cosmos, a microcosm of the greater expanse of reality. Our story is one for us to write, for us to dream up, to fantasise about, to imagine, and finally to create from scratch. Unlimited pathways open up to us, when we believe in our dreams.

For too long, our innate knowledge of our magnificence has been suppressed. Now we are ready to dream up a new possibility, to take the first step to achieving alchemical results.

Whatever you can imagine for yourself is possible, when you take action. Open your eyes to the lessons of the cosmos, the whispers of the stars, the caress of the wind, the wisdom of the sunshine that feeds and nourishes our being. When you believe in your dream, your sense of self immediately expands. You become bigger than when you set out.

When you take the first step in search of your dream, each step is a little miracle along the road to your dream. Strangers will support you, people you never imagined will mysteriously appear before you to help you along the way. Spirit is moved by action. Spirit will support your dream.

The grander your vision, the more action will be required and the more support from spirit will be received. When we embark on a journey to achieve our dream, we literally and metaphysically move mountains in the cosmos. Lives are changed by our dream. We enroll advisers, helpers, guides, workers, servers, supporters. The greater our vision, the more we will start believing that spirit follows our thought, that matter and spirit are one and the same. All greatness has been achieved by believing boldly, by imagining the impossible, by taking the first step and each step that followed it never losing sight of the destination.

Leap into the unknown, take a journey within and open your eyes to new possibilities. There’s a hero within each of us, just waiting to be heard.

This is our time. Our time to choose. Our time to flourish. Our time to take responsibility for our lives and our beloved planet.

We can be heroes.

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This empowering message was what led me to form the Create Magic Facebook group.

I’m here to guide you, empower you and remind you that you are the hero of your story.

Stop acting as if you’re the supporting character when you truly are the lead.

Be courageous in all that you create.

That’s when the real magic happens.

Magic Prompt #2

In our Create Magic Facebook group, share your ideas on how you can create magic in your industry/niche.

Here are a few mini-prompts to help you get started:

  • What’s something your target audience really needs, but hasn’t been offered by anyone yet?
  • What are all the experts in your industry doing (yes, that thing ALL of them are doing) and how can you put your own unique signature on it? (or better yet, how can you deliver it in a non-cookie-cutter way?)
  • How can you turn your current offerings into something that would be unforgettable to your future clients?
  • What’s missing in your industry/niche that nobody’s really addressing, or is too afraid to admit? (What’s the big elephant in the room?)
  • Define that ‘magic’ means to you – what do you really help your clients/customers with?

 

 

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